With the many ways we have to express our business brilliance these days, it’s all too easy to get boxed in with a secret fear, something we don’t know, then don’t learn because we’re concerned it will reflect poorly on us if we ask.
My dear friend Terry Nicholetti, who runs runs SpeakoutGirlfriend.com, recently helped me with my elevator speech. Terry helps women can learn to overcome fear of speaking in public. She says:
“I’ve always loved public speaking — the top fear of most people. So how can I teach these things? Because I was terrified of almost everything else.”
Terry does brilliant work on overcoming fear. I hired her because while I love technology I get shy in person. Working with Terry has improved my networking and public speaking. Terry used to freeze in front of the computer.I helped her learn to self-manage her WordPress web site. Now both of us have moved on to new business challenges!
So when I saw Michelle Kerrigan ‘s blog and wanted to share it with you. Michelle knows of what she speaks. An accomplished executive coach, she has worked with corporations large and small, now helping people find their optimum performance. She identifies fear and silence as two of the great confidence killers.
Put your mind at ease with a few helpful tips:
- First—take a deep breath and remember: no one knows it all.
- Ask and get off the worry treadmill. When you’re afraid to ask, you lack clarity and understanding. Your world becomes a guessing game. Learn what you need to know. Ask!
- Find someone who doesn’t speak in tongues. When you have the confidence to ask questions, find someone who can explain in the simple terms. Communication is all about being understood.
- Know that, as your skills rise, so does your confidence. Once you’re more grounded in the practical, the hands-on, how-to will cause your fear of the technical to subside.
And by the way, when it comes to spiders. I’d rather go give a big speech!